Homosexual – a person who is sexually attracted to people of their own sex.
synonyms: gay, lesbian.
There’s been this serious bant going around my school lately. It all started with a fight between roommates. They’re four in the room so the fight was three-against-one. The ‘one’ won the fight based on the results the students created. Part of the reasons she won is because of the accusations she afflicted on them. According to her, she claimed that they practice lesbianism. In other words they’re homosexuals. As expected this created a chasm amongst students, everyone wants to talk — some even claimed to have a sex tape of them, these vague rumors are all over the place, everything negative.
Um by now you all should have known that I’m a Nigerian and I also study in Nigeria. There’s this thing called ‘Nigerian Mentality’, the name is self explanatory enough I guess. Anyways its used to make fun of the way we see things. This Nigerian Mentality affects the whole country. This Nigerian Mentality is affecting the students in my school. These three girls are being victimized, people look at them different now and once they pass, people laugh and do all them village illiterate attitude. People believe it’s true because when the fight was happening and the defamation of character was said, they didn’t say anything to defend themselves.
This topic led to an argument between myself and my roommate. **Not to brag or anything but I got her to reason with me, Lol. I’m rad like that** Fine I agree that homosexuality is a challenge in every society, Nigeria or otherwise but it’s already here and there’s nothing we can do about it than learn to respect it. Besides, I expected this issue to be taken with an open mind because this is a University environment and we are all educated people here. Though it’s a religious (Muslim) school, I still expected people to use basic common sense which is to reason and give an informed opinion.
The main problem is that Nigeria roots itself in God and cultural traditions of those before us, so if anyone does anything contrary to what they’ve done, that person is working for the devil or is the devil himself. Homosexuality is considered anti-tradition, culture and religions with an “S” at least they agreed on that. Every human being deserves dignity and not getting that is a violation. Homosexuality doesn’t mean someone is a bad person or ungodly. It doesn’t mean someone is immoral. One’s sexuality doesn’t define them, it’s only a part of them. In Nigeria, we tend to show off as being the holiest of all, we think it’s the right of a man to openly cheat on his wife, we practically praise him for doing that but we crucify someone who’s trying to be themselves and yet still wear the ‘Morality Coat’. It’s not morally irresponsible for a forty-something years old man to marry a nine-year-old girl and have sex with her which is just wrong and inhumane on every level. There’s no law against that which is a proper crime as a victim is involved. We argue that we’re civilized yet we don’t sit for at least five minutes to consider how people of this orientation feel, tolerating them at least is somewhere we can start from.
With the amount of over educated people in this country, yes ‘Over Educated’ because we are the ones with Bsc, Msc, PhD and a every professional certificate this world has to offer yet Nigerians still act like Same-Sex Attraction (SSA) is simply a chosen “lifestyle” that can be easily changed. Wake up people! It is inborn and unchangeable. And if you think of it why would anybody choose to be homosexual in a world that makes life so difficult for homosexuals? It’s futile to rant against homosexuality. Ranting against homosexuality is like ranting against people with big feet or curly hair. What’s the point? You can’t stop then from being born because nature would continue to make them. After all, no one ever asked to be straight same way no one asked to be homosexual. I honestly don’t believe it’s a conscious choice.
Yes! I’m ranting but you’ll give it to me that it’s a calculated one. Because we’re Nigerians and its a crime to think differently, I would be lashed on because of this post. Truth is.. I honestly don’t care. I have been granted freedom of expression and a right to speak my mind. And this is my mind ! We’re just so ignorant of some things, the world is changing and we can’t be stagnant forever. And my people, throwing people in jail doesn’t revert homosexuality. Being gay is not a crime. Nigerians are hypocrites who hide under the guise of religion which is the worst thing that has happened to our people. Why discriminate on the basis of sexual preferences when there are more important things to worry about like poverty, corruption, injustice, unemployment, violence and the list goes on. It’s a pity to see that people who are leading this country and the citizens of the country think that homosexuality is bigger than these problems, they need to take a reality check.